THE JOURNEY THROUGH THE SAHARA

IT WAS A VERY LOVELY DAY OUT WHEN I DECIDED TO GO ON A JOURNEY THROUGH THE DESERT, JUST TO HAVE SOME ADVENTURE AND SEE WHAT PEOPLE EXPERIENCE BY THIS KIND OF TRAVEL.

IT WAS A VERY SUNNY DAY WHEN I ENTERED A VEHICLE THAT TOOK ME TO THE BORDER POST AND CROSSED TO THE NEXT COUNTRY WHERE I AM GOING TO PASS THROUGH AND WE GOT TO A SMALL TOWN AND WAS THERE FOR FEW DAYS BEFORE WE CONTINUED TO A LITTLE TOWN CALLED AGADEZ, IT WAS SORROUNDED WITH MUD HOUSES, BUT I WAS EXCITED BECAUSE I WANTED TO SEE MORE , SO I WENT TO MAKE A BOOKING TO ENTER A TRUCK,IT WAS QUITE INTERESTING BECAUSE THERE WERE LOTS OF OTHER PASSENGERS GOING THE SAME WAY,WHEN IT WAS TIME,THE DRIVER AND HIS ENTOURAGE SAID HIIIIAAAAAA MEANING LETS GO.

WE CLIMBED THE TRUCK AND STARTED SINGING WHILE THE VEHICLE MOVED WITH SPEED TO THE ROAD UNTIL IT GOT TO THE DESERT SANDS AND WE CONTINUED ON A VERY EXCITING MOOD AND WHEN WE GOT TO WHERE WE WERE TO EAT WE ALL GOT DOWN AND EACH PERSON BROUGHT OUT THERE COOKING UTENSILS FROM WHERE THEY PUT IT AND LOOKED FOR WOOD TO MAKE FIRE AND WE COOKED THERE ON THE SAND AND AFTER A WHILE WE RESTED ON THE SAND BEFORE WE CONTINUED THE JOURNEY,BUT WHAT WAS EXCITING ABOUT THIS TRAVEL WAS THE MIRRAGE WE WERE SEEING AHEAD OF US ,IT WAS LIKE SEEING A SEA OF OCEAN AHEAD OF YOU AND WONDERING IF YOU WILL BE SWALLOWED BY IT.

AFTER LONG HOURS OF TRAVEL ON THE DESERT WE GOT TO A SMALL TOWN CALLED DURUKU WHERE WE RESTED FOR THE NIGHT AND CONTINUED THE FOLLOWING DAY.

WHILE TRAVELLING WE CAME ACCROSS A VERY BIG MOUNTAIN WHERE WE RESTED TOOK WATER AND FOOD AND WE WERE ALWAYS JUMPING IN AND OUT OF THE TRUCK WHENEVER OUR DRIVER AND HIS CREW SAYS HIIIAAAA…….,BUT THE GREAT ADVENTURE WAS WHEN WE GOT LOST AND WE WERE LOOKING FOR A WAY OUT AND THE VEHICLE WAS GOING ROUND AND ROUND FOR HOURS ON END BEFORE THREE ELDERLY MEN WHO WERE TRAVELING WITH US TOLD THE DRIVER TO FOLLOW THE DIRECTION OF THE SUNSET UNTIL WE WERE ABLE TO LOCATE OUR WAY AND GOT TO OUR FINAL DESTINATION EVENTUALLY ,IT WAS A LOVELY AND EXCITING JOURNEY FOR IT WAS A GREAT ADVENTURE.

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The Smallest Step In The Right Direction Can BeThe biggest step of your life

Stepping In The right direction – the biggest step of your life

smallest step

Taking the smallest step in the right direction can go a long way, as we all know life is not always a bed of roses but as we lay our bed is how we will lie on it.  There are times when taking the smallest step in the right direction will go a very long way because that step if taken could be the greatest and best in your life. Whatever takes, taking an action and focus will help you in a very big way.  Sometimes we have a motive or a goal but because of laziness or procrastination, we tend to stay in the same spot, all because we refuse to take that little step in the right direction, but a step taken could have been a win situation but instead we get distracted and overwhelmed with unnecessary issues of life.

my dream

Sometimes you meet the love of your life, but miss or lose that person because you refuse to profess your feelings due to fear and doubt of what that person will say, same goes for a  person that wants to go to college but keep postponing admission because of unnecessary situation.  Sometimes we plan on getting a job but we are lazy about applying and end up losing that job same goes for a business man who has a lucrative business prospect that might change his life for the best, but because of delay, doubt, second thought and not taking action could make everything go wrong.  You need to stop having second thoughts and start taking action because that would be the biggest for you in the right direction.

taking a step

a step

The clock is ticking and the fact that time waits for nobody simply means whatever you need to do, do it quick.  everybody has a dream and wants it to come to pass and we all want a new and better life but the fact remains that our dream to become a star,an engineer,a doctor, an entrepreneur and whatever we want for our selves can never come to pass if that first step needed in the right direction is not taken.  Take that first step in the right direction so that whatever you want may come to reality.  It is almost like that saying ” how you lay your bed is how you lie on it”, So regardless of what your goals or dreams are, believe in yourself and take that first step in the right direction, even if it’s a baby step.  Whatever you wish would be fulfilled in the step taken in the right direction. Step into the world you want by jumping the broom into a new life.

 

 

 

how to make relationships work

Making relationships work

How do we make relationships work?, hmmm! it takes the grace of God and a lot of good notion including patience understand and perseverance and most relationship have stress and crisis, so making sacrifice for that relationship will go a along way, but it is always worth the while if properly applied, there are so many information, prompts and advice out there and sometimes they could be reliable and sometimes it is not worth accepting because they look like junk automatically means it is not a good advice and it is not worth reading because they are most times contradicting and confusing. The unfortunate thing is that most information given is one-sided and   does not apply to everybody because of the fact that different problems needs different solutions and i am being brief about what advice I can give about making a relationship work. There are some elements of truth about stability in a good relationship.  Some factors that make relationships work are:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

 

relationship built on trust

built on trust

  • Trust: A good, healthy and loving relationship relies on trust and faith in whomever you are dealing with which includes marriages and others, for without trust, chaos, confusion and pestilence will arise in that relationship and from a layman’s point of view, a relationship without trust is like telephone without service, which is almost like a relationship without a good foundation.  lack of trust can lead to you checking on him all the time believing in what you imagine which could be baseless. lets say he is away on a conference, you are there worried about what he or she is doing and who they are with and all kinds of thought will be flowing through your mind.  Unnecessary insecurities due to lack of trust will lead to constant quarrel and commotions at home which if looked critically could end up driving both of you apart instead of getting close. I get it, there has been a bad experience about a past relationship. but we need to forget about our past and move on or else you will have trust issue in your relationship which you need to avoid.
    The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships
relationship

relationship

  • communication : Do you communicate with your partner at all? some people have problem expressing their feelings and what they think with their friend and partner, but why? of what value is that relationship when there is no room for proper communication. Lack of communication with your partner is a big problem. It is in your best interest to tell him your opinion, then you can both solve whatever problem you may have and it will create room for understanding which is always the case with communicating to each other and not keeping quiet. improper communication might lead to survival problems in that relationship. There are some factors that needs consideration when communicating and these includes respect and talking calmly and reasonably to each other and this could be a better solution to all problems which will call for understand and therefore solution.
love

love

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last

  • Love: There is that saying which says “love conquers them all”.  It is the major reason which brings two people together anyways and sometimes some people decide to get together and live together even if they don’t love each other and its an incredible situation and with time they may fall in love with each other and this love situation will help in solving most problems, no matter how tough and if both parties fall apart that same love that brought them together the first time will always bring them back.  For peace, understanding and love to reign in any relationship you must learn to:
  1. Understand your partner at all cost
  2. Give love honor and respect to each other
  3. Try creating moment for connection and communication
  4. Learn to share things in common
  5. Cope with situations and problems wisely and strategically no matter how tough
  6. Learn to dialogue as much as you can

 

 

 

 

Steps To Take When You Are Angry Or Frustrated

What To Do When Angry Or Frustrated

angry

anger

Anger could be called a process of natural irritation due to an event or circumstance which could lead to frustration if care is not taken.  No matter what the situation is, it is always good to convert your anger into a good and useful thing instead of letting it become destructive. There are so many things you can do when you are angry, such as you walking out of the house at that instance so that you can cool off, you can mow the lawn or do housework.  All this process makes you shed the anger and the good thing is that when you are angry, whatever you are doing gets done on time and this is because it gives you the opportunity to vent e.g. scrubbing a shower, mopping a floor – avoid any kind of dusting, because it doesn’t have the hard physical activity you need to throw out your anger. There are so many other recreation activities you can involve yourself in, when you are angry and this includes outdoor jogging and other types  of exercise. That way you can burn off your anger and your mood will definitely change and you will feel great because you mastered your anger and channeled it into something good.

You Don’t Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

frustrated

angry

Humour can also be a tool for defusing your anger. You can watch one of your favorite silly humour movies, take a few deep breaths and prepare for a mental “movie screening”… and slowly recall that favorite funny scene. It will help you cut your anger.  Try to take things easy and don’t be too hard on yourself, and it is a very good idea not to expect too much from other people either.  When you start boiling up in anger. try the best you can to control your anger by taking some of the actions mentioned above.  Say it out loud and clear, “The trash spilled on the floor again?, and so what? Oh well, that’s life.” Most importantly is you taking a pick at what got you angry in th e first place.  Why were you angry in the first place, the goal is to divide the problem into one of 2 classes.

upset

frustrated

How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger (Laugh & Learn)

1. If your anger is about a specific issue that could lead to change whether it’s your behavior or someone else’s, then decide what to do about it non-violently. For example, if you are angry at yourself for leaving shoes where you will trip over them, then move the shoes and make a rule to keep them in the new spot. Or if a neighbor has borrowed something of yours awhile ago and hasn’t given it back, then tell the neighbor that you’d like the item back please as you need to use it again soon. Remember to keep things in perspective and don’t expect perfection.

angry

Anger

You Can’t Make Me Angry

 

2. Lets look at it critically, If your anger is absolutely beyond your control or out of proportion, then there is really nothing you can do, But to mentally visualize yourself wrapping your anger in a box and giving it away to the person or situation that brought about it in the first place. When you find it difficult controlling your anger or  unable to channel your anger into anything useful with the above tips, then there surely will be a problem and could be destructive – not only to you,  most importantly to those around you. Never put your loved ones through anything bad because of your anger. If you feel your anger is getting out of control sometimes, seek help. It takes a  lot of determination to do that.  Some people find that anger management classes give them a lot of help and i will suggest you try this avenue too to see if you can get help through it.  Remember, you owe it not just to yourself but to your loved ones to seek help if you need it.

Trust and Distrust In Marriage And Any Other Relationship

Trust and Distrust

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Trust is the beginning of every good marriage, but when trust is not there anymore, it takes the grace of God for trust to exist again in that relationship. A spouse can forgive, but that painful experience will make it difficult for the offended spouse to let go for fear that it could happen again. For some, it is easier to forgive than to forget. Trusting and getting hurt is bad enough, so, taking chances for the occurrence is not an option? Putting up barriers of protection is not uncommon for a wounded spouse.

Trust

Trust

Distrust is very common between spouses especially when one has cheated and this situation might weaken a marriage that needs trust to grow. Distrust is like putting on a guard if in any way there is cheating or occurrence of it again. It is a means of protection. On the other hand, it is certainly not impossible to trust again, but it takes some effort and determination for it usually does not happen easily or quickly in any way.

Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration

trusted relationship

relationship of trust

A victim once said after reconciliation with her husband, that she realized what infidelity can cause to a family life and she compared it to a starving dog snatching a beautiful wedding cake. Getting the trust back was like looking for a piece of needle in a haystack but the truth is that the remaining cake was still beautiful, but the unforgettable part is that anytime you look at the remaining cake you kind of miss the complete cake before the dog got into it and that makes you bitter, sad and angry.  the question is, how could a loving spouse take such beauty away from a loved one he promised to cherish? that kind of pain is often indescribable and a lot will surely be affected including Life itself.

trusting your couple

couple

Marriage is not the only institution that has cheating issues . Many  Cheaters victimize their relationships with children, loving friends, other close family members, and even themselves. The bad part about this is that it may affect cheaters’ families because of the pain, embarrassment, and awareness of community gossip it will cause. most times such scandal can lower the value or importance of a family within a community. The whole families may suffer because of it.  A good friend does not want to witness her best friend’s husband in a compromising situation with another women. A member of the family  does not want to hear gossip about their loved one from other people in the community.  the Young people contemplating marriage one day might lose faith and respect in the marriage institution due to this infidelity crisis in the society, and celebrity gossip on the media is not helping either. All of these life experiences are painful for many family members and others to bear when it comes to issues of cheating and infidelity.

relationship built on trust

built on trust

The unfortunate thing is that cheating and crisis at home always have very bad or negative effects on the children because it gets them confused and they end up being the most wounded victims. A lot of children suffer silently and some could blame themselves and the bad part is that this parent problem could spill over into the rest of their lives thereby causing various dysfunctions in their own personal families. The best thing to do if situations like this arise is to go for counseling but many families do not look at it that way because many families do not see the need to get it.
Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships

distrust couples

distrust couples

Cheating is never a good thing both in a marriage or any relationship, and making irrelevant and unnecessary excuses are not acceptable either and as we all know the consequences are always devastating for all parties involved, especially the children and the offended spouse.“Sometime the effects of cheating on the victims involved could be devastating especially, if they end up living that relationship for another and it could be a problem if the parties involved are not fully healed, so the best we can do to avoid any kind of trauma in our lives is being sincere and honest with our friends, spouse and acquaintances.

 

 

Starting A Blog

How Do I Start A Blog

There are questions asked by a lot of people about what you need to get started  making a profitable blog. The answer is nothing,  Now if you want higher returns and if you have the money to spend, the answer to “what you need to get started as a blogger” might be several hundred dollars to invest in tools that could take you to the top in no time.

how to start a blog
Start A blog

Starting a blog takes some process and there are important tools needed to make your blog outstanding and One of the most important things you will need to get started is keyword research tool or a form of database. Currently, there are dozens of these tools on the market, which are of different prices and it ranges from free to around $500. One of the most important tool on the market is Google keyword planner, Word Tracker, which offers a limited trial version for free? or a fully functional version per day or per month  and it will allow you to find out the most profitable keyword and will make search supply and rating demand possible.

starting a blog
how to blog

When it comes to starting a blog, there are always answers to what you need to get started apart from a keyword phrase tool, but every question will always depend on the project at hand.  For instance, if you’re hosting a blog and you want to monetize it with Ad sense, adding a thumbnail generator to the list of  what  you need to get started will be necessary. The purpose of the thumbnail generator when inserted in your blog is to create code and generate scraped-thumbnail pictures from related searches on Google images and this will place them next to your contextual ads, making it possible to  increase your click-thru rate.  Sometime along the line, you might want to sell your own products and you may want to add an autoresponder to your tools list.  An autoresponder will help you to greatly improve your conversion rate by allowing  you to put all follow-up emails on autopilot instead of doing it manually.

start blogging
start blogging

The question is do you really need anything to get started as a blogger or writing your blog? I don’t think so.  creating a profitable blog does not involve paying a scent but sometimes you might need to spend some extra cash to buy some valuable tools to increase your conversion rate and make more sales but if you want to take advantage of automating tools to further improve your profitability and efficiency, you will have to buy at least a few tools to help improve your blog.

How Do I Find Blogging Ideas?

How To Write A Blog

Blogging

Inspiration

Blogging is an important part of content management and it is the instrument or tool that you use in promoting your business and most importantly  your ideas for blogging always comes as a source of inspiration on generating your blogs. Sometimes you might be out of ideas or topics for your blog but if you set your mind to write, nice loving ideas will come your way due to inspiration.  The best way as far as i know to get ideas is by having your pen and paper handy wherever you go because ideas come from discussions, events and other activities of the day which could be at work , restaurant and any other places of interest and the only way you can put those ideas into action is writing them down when it comes in a flash and then create a nice topic out of those ideas.  If you have it in mind about starting a blog or you are a seasoned blogger, one of the best ways of getting ideas to promote your business or profession is to have your pen and paper handy for writing down information and ideas that come through your head so you don’t forget.  Normally we always want to share ideas on what we do and love for others to gain and learn from it.  Blogging is a very free and inexpensive platform and the best way we can make our readers happy is by creating good and interesting contents.

blogging

Ideas

There are so many strategies to blog writing depending on the kind of inspiration you have and the technique you apply to writing for the benefit of your audience, before you go into blogging you need to ask yourself what your passion is, what do you really care about and what are you willing to share with your readers. If you have a particular niche or topic that you really love and have passion about, then creativity with your writing will be a good thing which eventually will be a source of happiness and inspiration for others. You should realize that you must have fresh content and new information all the time about your blogs. There are so many topics that one can write about depending on your passion and interest such as Food, Movies, Politics, Music, Cars, Relationship, Blogging, Health, fitness, finance  and a lot of other topics and you can also write mostly about your business.  Blogging Ideas is all about inspiration, passion and love for what you like doing and sharing for the benefit of your readers, so boosting your creative juices is very necessary

blogging

blog ideas

Brainstorming is a very great way of getting ideas for your blog by writing down what comes to your mind and you can also talk to friends and relations to see if you can get ideas but you must always remember that the purpose of your writing is to help others gain one or two things from what you are writing about. You need to do some research about your idea in other to generate a keyword which will make it easy for your audience to find you.  while narrowing down your blog, you need to realize that you are trying to enlighten your readers about what you know which they may not have much idea about and you want to give them the latest information or event about your topic and your idea if properly written is a source of inspiration to others because it will make some readers happy and give them peace of mind depending on your mode of writing and it could be a source of humor to make your readers laugh.

ProBlogger: Secrets for Blogging Your Way to a Six-Figure Income

Dog aggression

Dog Behavior Problems

Aggression

Aggression

Dog aggression has its foundation and there are different reasons that could lead to a dogs aggression.  Aggression is a normal or abnormal threat or challenge that happens as a result of combat or submission by our dog and it is a very common behavioral problems with dogs especially in companion dogs.  There are different types of aggression which includes fear, domination, inter-dog, territorial/protection, food-related e.t.c.  Aggression can occur to any dog irrespective of age or gender  and most times it happens due to fear,food,domination and other known reasons. As we all know aggression is destructive and dangerous.  There are different forms to aggression and there are different reasons for its occurrence.  There are common signs that you see with an aggressive dog and these include:

1. biting

2. Growling

3. Snarling

4. Curling lips

5. Barking

6. Snapping

7. Head and Tail up with A stare

8. head and Tail down with a withdrawn body

9. Tail Waving Frantically

10. Posturing And Lunging

on leash and aggressive

on leash and aggressive

Sometimes we might wonder at the causes of dog aggression, Some dogs are naturally aggressive but some dogs are aggressively trained way by the owners , normally dog aggression is part of the normal range of canine behavior, but in many cases it is generally influenced by the breed of the dog, sex, personal behavior,genetics and other reasons.  there are other factors for aggression which is not very common which is medical related and this could be due to pain. many a time most dogs do not become aggressive on their own but due to training or upbringing. The better way of curbing aggression is by getting a good and skilled trainer that will stop the aggression through some better techniques.  Head halter and harnesses is very useful in controlling dominant dogs. Consistency, kindness and predictability in managing aggression is critical. No matter what you do, harsh punishment or any form of punishment will not help in any way, so  try to avoid it because if you don’t it can lead to the dog being more aggressive.

Calm Dog

Calm Dog

There are ways to stop aggression in dogs:

  • Take your dog on a walk: Keep your dog on-leash and keep the leash short, so that you have total control over the dog.

  • If you see people with or without a dog approaching: Move your dog to one side of the sidewalk, keeping him as far away from the other dog as possible

  • As the dogs and people approach, watch your dog very closely for signs of aggression: If your dog looks at the person or dog coming with a death stare, give a quick tug at the leash.

  • If your dog tries to attack, give the dog a quick snap back with the leash Tell him to sit down and this is tells your dog that being calm is good and that attacking others is bad.

  • Repeat:  Repeat the same process every time a person and dog walks by your dog.

  • Reward your dog!: When your dog is able to calm down and resist the urge to attack other dogs, you can reward him with a treat, or by petting your dog by saying “Good girl or good boy”, etc. This passes a message to your dog that being calm is a good thing

  • Whenever you think that your dog is able to calm down, make a meeting between your dog and another dog.

  • Introduce your dog to adults, teenagers, or a child so that they get used to people, they need to sociable

  • Have a role model for your dog!: If your dog doesn’t know how to calm, create a scenario for your dog. Have two calm dogs meet each other and make your dog watch how they greet each other calmly by sniffing each other instead of attacking. Do the same with a calm dog and a person. This is a good way to show your dog what  is a good attitude.