INFIDELITY AND RELATIONSHIP

 A PROBLEM IN A RELATIONSHIP

THERE ARE ALWAYS CHALLENGES IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP AND ALL RELATIONSHIP HAS A LIFE CYCLE. ITS ALWAYS INTERESTING HOW AND WHEN YOU MEET YOUR PARTNER  AND HOW YOU FALL IN LOVE  SOME CALL IT “LOVE AT FIRST SITE AND SOME SAY ITS JUST FALLING IN LOVE. AT THE BEGINNING OF A RELATIONSHIP, YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE, YOU APPRECIATED THEIR PHONE CALLS,WANTED THEIR TOUCH,LIKE THEIR TALK AND ADVICE AND YOU ALWAYS WANT TO LISTEN TO THEM AT ALL TIMES AND YOU ARE ALWAYS ON THE LOOKOUT FOR THEM WHEN THEY ARE NOT YET AT HOME WHEN YOU ARE THERE.

relationship and infidelity

infidelity and relationship

WAS FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOUR PARTNER REALLY A BIG DEAL?, THE TRUTH IS ,IT WAS A SPONTANEOUS EXPERIENCE WHICH BLEW YOU AWAY. YOU DID NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH ANY PROCESS BUT SEEING IT HAPPEN NATURALLY. THAT’S WHY IT IS CALLED “FALLING” IN LOVE – BECAUSE ITS HAPPENING. MOST PEOPLE IN LOVE ALWAYS SAY “I WAS SWEPT OFF MY FEET.” THINK ABOUT WHAT THAT EXPRESSION ENTAILS. IT INDICATES THAT YOU WERE JUST STANDING THERE ;DOING NOTHING,AND THEN SOMETHING CAME ALONG AND HAPPENED TO YOU.

AFTER A FEW YEARS OF MARRIAGE, THE EUPHORIA OF LOVE FADES AND CRISIS IN A RELATIONSHIP ARISES, THIS IS THE NATURAL CYCLE OF EVERY REALTIONSHIP.GRADUALLY BUT SURELY,PHONE CALLS BECOME A PROBLEM,TOUCH SOMETIMES IS NOT WELCOME AND YOUR SPOUSE’S ATTITUDE INSTEAD OF BEING CUTE AND EXCITING AS IT USED TO BE ,DRIVE YOU NUTS. THE SYMPTOMS OF THIS STAGE VARY WITH ALL RELATIONSHIP, LOOKING AT YOUR MARRIAGE ,YOU WILL REALISE A GREAT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE INITIAL STAGE OF FALLING IN LOVE AND A MUCH DULLER OR EVEN ANGRY SUBSEQUENT STAGE.

AT THIS STAGE ,YOU AND/ OR YOUR SPOUSE MIGHT START ASKING THE QUESTION, WHAT MADE ME TO MARRY THIS PERSON?, WAS THIS MARRIAGE MEANT TO BE?, DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? WHILE THIS QUESTIONS ARE GOING THROUGH YOUR MIND,YOU REFLECT ON FANTASY OF THE LOVE YOU ONCE HAD ,WHEN BOTH OF YOU WERE IN THE “GARDEN OF EDEN” FILLED WITH LOVE AND PASSION. SOME PEOPLE BEGIN TO DESIRE THAT PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE THEY HAD WITH SOMEONE ELSE.THIS IS WHERE THE “BOMB” OF DESTRUCTION SETS IN(MARRIAGES BREAKDOWN). SOME BLAME THEIR SPOUSE FOR THEIR UNHAPPINESS AND START LOOKING OUTSIDE THEIR MARRIAGE FOR FULFILLMENT, THEREBY GIVING ROOM TO INFIDELITY.

infidelity and relationship

TALKING ABOUT EXTRAMARITAL FULFILLMENT,IT COMES IN DIFFERENT SHAPES,SIZES AND DIMENSIONS. INFIDELITY IS THE MOST OBVIOUS. SOME PEOPLE TAKE SOLACE IN WORK, CHURCH, A HOBBY,  FRIENDSHIP, EXCESSIVE TV AND MOVIES OR ABUSIVE SUBSTANCES. MY QUESTION IS ,WHAT IS THE ANSWER TO THIS DILEMA?, THE ANSWER DOES NOT LIE OUTSIDE YOUR MARRIAGE. IT LIES WITHIN IT. I AM NOT SAYING YOU COULD NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE,YOU COULD ITS YOUR CHOICE. TEMPORARILY YOU’D BE COMFORTABLE AGAIN, BUT IN THE LONG RUN YOU WILL BE WEARING THE OLD SHOES AGAIN IN A FEW YEARS TO COME, THEREBY FINDING YOURSELF TO BE IN SQUARE “0″ OR “1″ .

 THE KEY TO SUCCESS IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING LOVE IS NOT AN EASY EXPERIENCE ,THERE ARE LOTS OF CHALLENGES TO IT. IT’LL NEVER JUST HAPPEN TO YOU. YOU CAN’T “FIND” LASTING LOVE .YOU HAVE TO “MAKE” YOUR LOVE LAST , DAY IN AND DAY OUT. THAT IS WHY WE HAVE THE EXPRESSION “THE LABOUR OF LOVE”  “IT TAKES TIME , EFFORT, DETERMINATION, PERSEVERANCE, DEDICATION AND ENERGY. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, IT TAKES WISDOM. YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK.
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FACEBOOK TIMELINE 3

GUIDE TO FACEBOOK TIMELINE PAGES

Application Boxes

YOUR PREVIOUS APPLICATIONS WHICH WERE AS TABS ON THE LEFT HAND SIDE OF YOUR PAGES WILL APPEAR NOW AS BOXES UNDER YOUR COVER IMAGE. LIKE THE TIMELINE PROFILE,YOU CAN DECIDE WHAT ORDER YOU WANT YOUR BOXES IN, MY SUGGESTION WOULD BE TO ARRANGE THEM BASED ON HOW IMPORTANT THEY ARE. IF YOUR APPLICATION IS MORE THAN THREE OR FOUR, USERS CAN ACCESS THEM BY CLICKING ON THE DROP DOWN ARROW TO THE RIGHT OF THE BOXES. THERE IS PROBABILITY THAT THE HIDDEN APPLICATIONS WILL RECEIVE THE SAME AMOUNT OF VISIBILITY DUE TO THE FACT THAT THERE IS ANOTHER CLICK REQUIRED TO VIEW THEM, THEREFORE TRY TO BE SELECTIVE WHEN DECIDING WHAT TO HIGHLIGHT IN YOUR APPLICATION BANNER.

THE OLD FAN GATE OR LANDING PAGE APPLICATION WILL NOW LIVE HERE, MAKING IT MANDATORY AS A WAY OF CONVERTING NEW VISITORS INTO FANS, ON THE FACT THAT, IT WILL NOT BE THE FIRST THING THAT ‘S SEEN WHEN YOU LAND ON A TIMELINE. UNFORTUNATELY, THE NEW FACEBOOK TIMELINE DOES NOT ALLOW YOU TO HAVE A LANDING PAGE  OR WELCOME TAB FOR YOUR BUSINESS PAGE ANYMORE. EVERYONE WILL LAND ON YOUR TIMELINE PAGE WITH THE BIG COVER PHOTO THAT’S NOT ALLOWED TO ASK PEOPLE TO CLICK THE LIKE BUTTON. SORRY!, THIS MEANS THE ” GATE” IS CLOSED . FORTUNATELY, YOU CAN STILL HAVE A REAL FAN GATE ON YOUR OTHER APPLICATIONS AND CONTENT, TRY TO ENCOURAGE USERS LIKE YOUR TIMELINE,  BEFORE THEY CAN ACCESS THE SOUGHT APPLICATIONS OR CONTENT, THIS IS HIGHLY RECOMMENDED.

IT WASN’T ALREADY THE BIGGEST NEW FAN SOURCE FOR MOST PAGES ,BUT NOW IT WILL BE IRRELEVANT:

So how do you get new fans now?

THESE TACTICS STILL WORKS:

  • USE A LIKE BOX ON YOUR SITE – THIS PUTS A SMALL REPRESENTATION OF YOUR FACEBOOK PAGE ON YOUR WEBSITE.YOU CAN CLICK LIKE THERE AND BECOME FANS.
  • RUN ADS: WITH YOUR PAGE AS THE DESTINATION,  AND ASK SOME PEOPLE TO CLICK LIKE ON THE AD, THEN THEY ARE A FAN.
  • LEVERAGE ALL YOUR OTHER METHODS TO EXPOSURE: PUT UP POSTERS IN STORES, SEND OUT EMAILS   AND SO ON

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FACEBOOK TIMELINE 2

GUIDE TO FACEBOOK TIMELINE PAGES

A timeline for facebook

FACEBOOK TIMELINE

A Smaller Profile Picture

THE HEIGHT OF THE PROFILE PICTURE HAS CHANGED A LOT ,SO YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR PHOTO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE  TO REFLECT THE NEW FACEBOOK FORMAT. THE RIGHT DIMENSION FOR A PROFILE PHOTO ARE NOW 180 BY 180. THE BEST THING TO DO IS USING YOUR LOGO OR ANY OTHER IMAGE THAT QUICKLY SUMMARIZES YOUR BRAND.

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THIS SECTION I AM SURE HAS BEEN PART OF YOUR FACEBOOK PAGE FOR A LONG TIME, BUT NOW IT’S A FEATURE YOU SEE AT THE TOP OF YOUR TIMELINE PREDOMINANTLY. IT IS NECESSARY THAT YOU UPDATE THIS SECTION OF YOUR TIMELINE, IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHICH  VERSIONS OF THE ABOUT SECTION, THAT APPLIES TO YOUR TIMELINE. 

LOCAL BUSINESSES: IF YOUR TIMELINE IS ASSOCIATED WITH A PHYSICAL LOCATION, THEN IT WILL LOOK LIKE :

THIS SHOWS YOU THE SUBCATEGORY:  ADDRESS,TELEPHONE NUMBER AND HOURS OF OPERATION.

  • NO PHYSICAL LOCATION: IF YOUR TIMELINE FEATURES A BRAND WITHOUT A SINGLE PHYSICAL LOCATION, THEN IT WILL LOOK LIKE:

THIS SECTION ALLOWS YOU TO ADD A DESCRIPTION OF UP TO  255 CHARACTERS.IT IS VERY NECESSARY TO BE CLEAR AND CONCISE,EXPLAINING TO YOUR FIRST TIME VISITORS A CLEAR UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT YOUR TIMELINE IS ALL ABOUT.
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HOW TO QUIT SMOKING

what it takes to stop smoking

smoking is a habit which most people cultivated, from their teenage years especially when you see your friends smoking , you will equally have the interest of joining them and with time it might be a habit depending on individual’s, some smoke for few years and stop, some make it a once in a while thing, while some take it as a one time thing , while some take it as a full-time chore(habit).
                                                     
What does it really take to stop smoking,it takes a lot of hard work and dedication because it is never  easy to stop smoking.  I remember some time ago when i was a smoker, it was pretty difficult to stop because sometimes if i say i want to stop, i find it difficult because when i see anyone smoking by me, the craving will always come again and i will end up holding a stick of cigarette, but i later realised that whatever you want to do , it is decision of mind that really make it happen, but determination of mind really has a lot of influence on decision to stop smoking.
                                             
I want you to look at your smoking habit and find what triggers you, especially those things that make you want to smoke and from there you will learn how you can handle them without cigarettes.
these are the things i would like for you to put into consideration, especially when considering quitting smoking:
  1. Make an honest determination about quitting smoking.
  2. Understand that quitting wont be easy.
  3. Set a quit date.
  4. As you are preparing to quit ,stop buying boxes of cigarettes.
  5. Check your cravings most of the time and check how bad it is.
  6. Get a list of things to do when cravings comes and try to decide not to go for the cigarette even if you have the cravings

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IS IT BETTER TO MARRY FOR LOVE OR MONEY?

  • LOVE OR FANTASY,MONEY OR LOVE?

MARRIAGE IS  A VERY CRUCIAL ISSUE ,BUT INTERESTING TO DISCUSS, I WAS SOMEWHERE WITH A GROUP OF FRIENDS AS USUAL AND ONE OF US CAME UP WITH A QUESTION ABOUT LOVE AND MONEY AND SOMEONE SAID WHAT ABOUT IT?, AND HE ASKED IF IT WAS GOOD TO MARRY FOR LOVE OR MONEY?,SOME TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION AS USUAL AND HE JUST SAID WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?,SOME SAID MARRYING FOR MONEY IS THE BEST AND SOME SAID  MARRYING FOR LOVE WAS THE BEST AND THE LAST PERSON SAID MARRYING FOR BOTH IS  NECESSARY.

money and love which one is best

marriage in love and money makes life good

EVERYONE WANTS SECURITY OF LIFE ESPECIALLY IN MARRIAGE, PREVIOUSLY IT WAS ASSUMED THAT PEOPLE SHOULD MARRY FOR THE FEELINGS THAT THEY HAVE FOR EACH OTHER,ON THE OTHER HAND MARRYING FOR MONEY IS FOR SECURITY IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT I WOULD RATHER SAY, IT HAS TO BE  BALANCED.MARRYING SOLELY FOR LOVE WONT FEED YOUR FAMILY,WHILE MARRYING SOLELY FOR MONEY WONT SATISFY YOUR LIFE IN THE LONG RUN.

love and money

MANY RELATIONSHIP HAVE PROBLEM DUE TO FINANCIAL ISSUES AND ISSUES RELATING TO MONEY CAN DESTROY LOVE OVERTIME,ON THE OTHER HAND ,WITHOUT LOVE AND ROMANCE ,MARRIAGE LIFE WILL BECOME BORING AND  DRY AND MAY LEAD TO DISTORTION IN INTIMACY.IN MANY CASES IN THE PRESENT AGE, MANY YOUNG GIRLS WOULD PREFER A RELATIONSHIP THAT GOES WITH MONEY, BECAUSE  IT IS BELIEVED THAT MARRIAGE WITH MONEY IS A SECURITY OF LIFE FOR THEM, WHICH MAKES SOME PEOPLE CALL SOME GIRLS “GOLD DIGGERS” BUT IN TRUTH NO ONE EVER SAYS A MAN IS A “BEAUTY-DIGGER” BECAUSE HE WANTS A BEAUTIFUL GIRL, SO I WOULD RATHER SAY,MONEY AND LOVE IS IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP, BECAUSE THEY CANT DO WITHOUT EACH OTHER . WHAT DO YOU THINK?

AT WHAT AGE DO YOU THINK ITS APPROPRIATE FOR CHILDREN TO GET CELL PHONES?

CELLPHONE AGE FOR CHILDREN

I WAS DISCUSSING WITH SOME FRIENDS SOMETIME AND THIS QUESTION ABOUT WHEN KIDS SHOULD BE USING MOBILE PHONES CAME UP, AND EVERYBODY HAD THEIR DIFFERENT OPINION AND SOME SAID AGE 12,13,AND 15 RESPECTIVELY, BUT IN REALITY WHAT AGE WOULD A PARENT WANT THEIR KIDS TO USE PHONES?, BECAUSE OF A LOT OF FACTORS LIKE CORRUPTION, DISCUSSING ISSUES NOT RELATING TO EDUCATION, NOT BEING ABLE TO MONITOR THE CHILD EVEN ON PHONE MAKES SOME PARENTS TO BE CAUTIOUS ABOUT WHEN TO ALLOW THEIR KIDS TO USE PHONES.

FOR ME, I THINK USING PHONE FOR CHILDREN DEPENDS ON PARENTS AND THEIR BELIEVES AND OPINIONS, SOME PARENTS DUE TO RELIGION RESTRICT THEIR KIDS FROM USING PHONE UNTIL WHEN THEY ARE 18 AND SOME GIVE THEIR CHILDREN THE PRIVILEGE FROM AGE 11 OR 12 DEPENDS ON HOW SMART AND RESPONSIBLE THEY THINK THE CHILD IS ,SOME PARENTS THINK ITS APPROPRIATE FOR A CHILD TO USE PHONE FROM AGE 12 BECAUSE, WHEREVER THE CHILD IS THEY CAN BE MONITORED .SOME PARENTS LOOK AT THE RESPONSIBILITY OF A CHILD TO GIVE THEM PHONE.

SOME PARENTS HAVE NO CHOICE AS TO WHEN TO GIVE PHONE TO THEIR KIDS DUE TO CIRCUMSTANCES BEYOND THEIR CONTROL, SUCH AS CARRYING PHONE FOR HEALTH REASONS E.T.C. I KNOW OF A PARENT WHO’S CHILD STARTED USING PHONE IN 4TH GRADE WHEN THE CHILD DEVELOPED A MEDICAL CONDITION.THE FRIENDS THOUGHT THEY COULD USE THE PHONE TO CALL FOR HELP ANYWHERE AT THE PLAYGROUND IN CASE OF EMERGENCY.THE AGE THAT I WILL SUGGEST CELL PHONES FOR CHILDREN WOULD BE FROM AGE 12 AND ABOVE.