WHAT QUALITIES DO YOU VALUE MOST IN FRIENDS

WHAT WOULD YOU WANT IN A FRIEND?


Friendship is a relationship of two people with mutual understanding, care, affection and love coming together, in other words, it is the relationship of trust, faith and concern for each others feelings.  A true friend is always there for you at all times despite all conditions and circumstances, they will always believe in you even if you don’t believe in yourself and they always keep promises.  there are qualities that accrues to a friend.



The qualities that i appreciate most in a friend are :

  • Giving me unconditional love, having great sense of humor and considering me as part of their family.

  • Honesty and willingness to forgive and take chances

  • My friend must not be a liar and selfish

  • A good friend must be loyal and kind.  must be someone that will listen and respond with frequent answers and must have a good heart with intelligence.

  • My friend must be unpretentious and backbiting.

  • A good friend will not hold grudges or take anything i say personally because they know i always have their best interest in mind all the time

  • They are always there especially in times of need and chaos, they are there to advice and worry about you when the need arises.

  • They accept me for who i am without judgement and criticism and are always supportive even if they don’t appreciate what i do.

  • They support me when i am right and they gladly and lovingly tell me when they feel i am wrong.

  • They are not jealous of you, but will be happy at your achievements.

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YOU NEVER KNOW HOW STRONG YOU ARE UNTIL BEEING STRONG IS THE ONLY CHOICE YOU HAVE

THE CHOICE OF BEING STRONG

HMMMMMM!, IT TAKES A WHILE TO GET TO THE CROSS ROAD AND IT TAKES A WHILE TO REALISE AND IT ALSO TAKES A WHILE TO BE STRONG BECAUSE THAT IS THE ONLY CHOICE YOU HAVE ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU ARE AT A CROSS ROAD OR IN A TIGHT CORNER WHERE CONFUSION SETS IN AND YOU DONT EVEN KNOW IF YOU HAVE TO GO FORWARD OR BACKWARD, BUT REMAIN THERE THINKING OF WHAT TO DO DUE TO LIFE PROBLEMS, BUT WITH THE SITUATION AS IT IS WE JUST HAVE TO BE STRONG.

being strong is a hard choice to make

being strong and making a choice

TRANSPIRING OUR EVERYDAY LIVES WE ALL HAVE CHALLENGES WHICH LOOKS US STRAIGHT IN THE EYE, IT’S LIKE THE CASE OF A WOMAN WHO’S HUSBAND IS IN THE MILITARY AND IS BEING DEPLOYED, THE ORPHAN WHO MISSES HIS OR HER PARENTS, THE CHILDREN WHO HAVE TO STRUGGLE TO SURVIVE WHEN PARENTS SHOULD BE THERE FOR THEM, THE MAN WHO WENT TO SEE A DOCTOR AND HE IS TOLD THAT HE HAS A SHORT LIFE TO LIVE BECAUSE OF A MYSTERIOUS ILLNESS THAT TAKES UP RESIDENCE IN HIS SPINAL CORD, THE MAN THAT HAD HIGH HOPES FOR A PARTICULAR JOB AND GETS DISAPPOINTED, THE MAN LOOKING FOR ADMISSION AND COULDN’T GET IT, WHAT ABOUT THE CONTRACT YOU HAD HIGH HOPES FOR AND IT COMES TO SHAMBLES?, THE MONEY YOU WERE EXPECTING FROM THE BANK TO EXECUTE YOUR PROJECT AND DISAPPOINTMENT SETS IN. ALL THIS PEOPLE ARE ON A CROSS ROAD OF CONFUSION AND THEY HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO BE STRONG IRRESPECTIVE OF WHAT THE SITUATION IS.  IN MOST CASES A LOT OF PEOPLE DONT KNOW HOW STRONG THEY CAN BE UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE UNHAPPY THEY STILL REMAIN STRONG.

to be strong is a choice you dont have in critical situation

be strong no matter what

Hold On Be Strong

Hold On Be Strong (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

LIFE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES, SITUATION COME AND GO BUT WE MUST REMAIN STRONG AND NOT LET OUR PAST DICTATE OUR FUTURE, YOU MUST REMAIN OPTIMISTIC, BE COURAGEOUS NO MATTER WHAT!, ECONOMY IS PART OF THE SITUATION, ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS ROUGH, ONE NEEDS TO BE STRONG.  YOU MUST HAVE HOPE NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCE.  ROUGH TIMES OR SITUATIONS WARRANT STRENGTH AND WILL, FOR BETTER LIFE AHEAD.

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WHEN YOU NEED CREATIVE INSPIRATION WHERE DO YOU GO?

THE SOURCE OF CREATIVE INSPIRATION

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Creative inspiration ……… (Photo credit: Nina Matthews Photography)
Creative Inspiration is stimulation of the mind or emotions to a high level of feeling or activity which comes as a source of enlightenment and understanding from nowhere in particular, some people suggest it to be a divine mind and some say inspiration is as a result of supernatural or divine influence. Its like somebody who is filled with enlivening or exalting emotion.  it’s just like hymns that inspire, the poet resulting from such inspiration or an inspired musician or inspired performer. Inspiration comes as a result of us willing, to express our passion and hearts desire by speaking in writing or through performance and discussion. The way by which we are individually  inspired is different from each other. some people get inspiration by going to waterfall streams, nature trailing with camera, when you need creative inspiration sometimes what you need is not what you see, but to walk and go to a quiet and relaxed place.  I have a friend who gets creative inspiration to write by going to the ocean to sit and listen to the waves. I get my inspiration by talking to people and friends what about you?

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DO YOU THINK PEOPLE CAN CHANGE?

HOW OFTEN CAN PEOPLE CHANGE?

Human nature is both flexible and rigid depending on how you want to apply it to change, it’s not always easy for someone to want to change from good to bad or from bad to good as the case may be ,but change to good and better life is a possibility, before we talk more lets ask ourselves what change really means, from my layman point of view change could be a situation where you are used to doing something which has become a habit or part of you and you are now planning on throwing that habit away because it affects you and you want the people arround you to see that you are a better person. It’s not always easy to bend a dry stick or else it will break but its easy to bend it a little. To make life different and to bring happiness upon yourself, you can bring change upon yourself.

wind of change
change

I have seen many cases of people with different habits, change to good, but initially they will say i cant change this is the way i am, some have been into drugs, womanizing, smoking and other habits but out of determination they finally change for the best, which tells me that we are really flexible or rigid which ever way we want to apply it. however if we want to improve ourselves we can,it only takes determination, resolve and some effort’s, but we can all change our lives for the better if we want to, it is not always easy, it has to come from our heart to want to change for the better and changing has to be something that matters to us deeply. when the pain of changing is more than the pain of wanting to stay the same! , we will change.

there are so  many measure that is taken for change to happen:

  • The zeal and will to change

  • Determination to change for the better

  • The thought of realising,  that what we are doing is not the best for us

  • religion as a motivation for change

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DO YOU BLOG AND WHY?

PURPOSE OF BLOGGING

Watching and Blogging

Watching and Blogging (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 BLOGGING IS A WAY OF EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS EMOTIONS, OBSERVATIONS, IDEAS AND INFORMATION FOR OTHERS TO SHARE WITH, YOU BUT THE WAY WE INDIVIDUALLY BLOG IS DIFFERENT FROM EACH OTHER DEPENDING ON THE MOTION AND INSPIRATION AT THAT TIME .SOME PEOPLE GET THEIR INSPIRATION TO BLOG FROM ANGER AND WHEN THEY ARE UPSET,SOME FROM DEPRESSION AND SOME DO GET INSPIRATION TO WRITE FROM INTEREST AND HOBBY AND WILL TO WRITE WHICH HAS BECOME AN HABIT OR HOBBY.GENERALLY WE BLOG BECAUSE WE HAVE IDEAS AND INFORMATION WE WANT TO SHARE TIMELY AND FREQUENTLY AND THIS INFORMATION ARE OF DIFFERENT NATURE DEPENDS ON THE NICHE OR TOPIC THE WRITER WANTS TO TALK ABOUT. IT ALSO SERVES AS A PURPOSE OF MARKETING FOR INDIVIDUALS AND COMPANIES SELLING THEIR PRODUCTS TO THE PUBLIC. BLOG CAN ALSO BE SAID TO BE ANOTHER WAY OF RELEASING TENSION THAT HAS BEEN PILING UP IN YOUR MIND ALL THIS WHILE OR A WAY OF THROWING OUT YOUR FEELINGS  OR EMOTIONS FOR OTHERS TO SHARE AND LEARN FROM .

blogging

BLOG

TALKING ABOUT BLOGGING WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT MOTIVES  AND PURPOSE TO WRITING AND DIFFERENT SITUATIONS INSPIRES US TO WRITE . FROM MY OBSERVATIONS SOME PEOPLE WRITE WHEN THEY FEEL DEPRESSED, SAD OR REALLY ANGRY THAT THEY HAVE TO LET IT OUT. TO SOME  THE BEST WAY TO  LET OUT THEIR BOTTLED UP EMOTIONS WITHOUT BLOWING UP IS TO BLOG. OTHER PEOPLE USE IT AS A REFERENCE POINT FOR THEM TO REMEMBER WHAT EVENTS AND EXPERIENCES THEY HAVE HAD IN THEIR LIVES AND ALSO AS A WAY OF LETTING OTHERS SHARE FROM IT BELIEVING THAT IT CAN BE OF BENEFIT TO THEM. I PERSONALLY BELIEVE THAT SHARING IDEAS IS A WAY OF LETTING OTHERS LEARN AND KNOW WHAT THEY HAVE NO KNOWLEDGE ABOUT.  THINGS ARE HAPPENING ESPECIALLY AROUND US DAY IN DAY OUT. DUE TO INDIVIDUAL EXPERIENCES. THE TRUTH IS WE HAVE TO LEARN FROM EACH OTHER. WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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THE BEST WAY TO CONTROL YOURSELF WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY?

HOW DO YOU CONTROL YOUR ANGER

THERE ARE DIFFERENT KIND OF SITUATION WHICH ARISE AND BRINGS ABOUT ANGER. SOMETIMES WE FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CONTROL OUR ANGER ESPECIALLY WHEN WE ARE EXTREMELY UPSET,UNHAPPY OR HAVE AN INTENSE FEELING OVER AN ISSUE. OUR LEVEL OF ANGER IS DIFFERENT FROM ONE INDIVIDUAL TO THE OTHER AND THE WAY WE INDIVIDUALLY REACT TO ANGER IS DIFFERENT FROM EACH OTHER . SOME PEOPLE GET ANGRY OVER NOTHING WHILE SOME GET ANGRY OVER A SITUATION THEY CAN CONTROL. I HAVE AN UNDERSTANDING THAT SOMETIMES ITS GOOD TO LET OUT YOUR ANGER OVER HOW YOU FEEL  AND EVENTUALLY LET IT GO. BUT THE TRUTH IS MANY PEOPLE HAVE PROBLEM MANAGING HOW THEY FEEL WHEN UPSET . MY QUESTION IS:

  • IS IT REALLY BAD TO FEEL UPSET AND  ANGRY ?
  • HOW DO I GET ANGRY WITHOUT LETTING THE OTHER PARTY FEEL BAD ?
  • HOW DO I DEAL WITH MY ANGER IN A MORE POLITE AND BETTER WAY ?
Angry woman.

Angry woman. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I REMEMBER A PARTICULAR INCIDENT WHEN A FRIEND CAME VISITING AND  WE WERE ALL HAVING A GOOD TIME AND CHATTING AND DURING OUR DISCUSSION WE WERE MAKING JEST OF EACH OTHER AND IT GOT TO A STAGE THAT I WAS MADE A JEST OF AND I GOT SO ANGRY THAT I FELT REALLY BAD, BUT INSTEAD OF HITTING OR FIGHTING I CONTROLLED MYSELF AND WALKED OUT OF THE HOUSE AND WENT VISITING ANOTHER FRIEND IN OTHER TO COOL OFF AND GOT MYSELF BACK IN PLACE. I DON’T CONSIDER MYSELF AN ANGRY PERSON BUT SOMETIMES I GET OUT OF CONTROL OVER A LITTLE THING AND I REACT FOOLISHLY AT THAT POINT IN TIME.  I OFTEN REGRET MY ACTIONS WHEN I BECOME CALM AFTER MY ANGER . I WISHED I HAD NOT REACTED THE WAY I DID AND I HATE MYSELF FOR IT.

THERE WAS A FRIEND WHO SHARED HIS LITTLE EXPERIENCE OVER THE WEEKEND WITH ME. HE WENT VISITING HIS BROTHER AND HIS BROTHER GOT HIM SO ANGRY THAT WHEN HE GOT BACK HOME HE FINISHED A POT OF JAM, IS THAT NOT FUNNY ? .THERE ARE DIFFERENT CASES LIKE THIS OUT THERE AND EVERYBODY REACTS DIFFERENTLY DEPENDING ON SITUATION. WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY WHAT DO YOU DO ?

  1. DO YOU GO FOR A DRIVE ?
  2. DO YOU YELL AT THE PERSON YOU ARE ANGRY WITH ?
  3. DO YOU TALK TO A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER ?
  4. DO YOU PHYSICALLY HIT THE PERSON INVOLVED BECAUSE YOU WERE SO ANGRY ?
  5. DID YOU CALL THEM NAMES BECAUSE YOU WERE ANGRY ?
  6. DID YOU LEAVE THE HOUSE  OR GO TO ANOTHER ROOM  TO THINK ?
  7. DID YOU GO TO A QUIET PLACE  TO COOL OFF ?
  8. DID YOU GO TO A BAR TO DRINK BECAUSE YOU WERE ANGRY?
an angry bear

an angry bear (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

HMMMMMMM! NO MATTER WHAT SITUATION OR CIRCUMSTANCES THAT MAKE US ANGRY WE SHOULD LEARN TO CONTROL OUR ANGER. WHAT DO YOU THINK ?.
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TO BE BOLD AND COURAGEOUS

BOLDNESS THAT GOES WITH ACHIEVEMENT AND DESIRE

to go places different from everybody

To Boldly Go Places To PlaceS

Boldness comes from the heart and desire is a thing of the mind.some of us have the will to achieve but do not have the boldness to accomplish that goal. It takes will, desire and determination to get to the crossing point where your dreams are accomplished. ” …to boldly go where no man has gone before…”  These are notable words from Captain Kirk of Star Trek fame. these put into summary his team’s courageous mission. What would have been their story line in that epic and entertaining movie had the mission been ” to boldly stay?.

Just Like so many of us, I have felt the burning desire to go and to get their first!, To go, to be an innovator, a creator, discoverer, explorer, to carve new territory and claim achievement! To be the one to arrive with the big idea, the polished plan. But maybe we need to pause just a bit longer, to know the full intent of what we want or would like to be.

Courage Under Fire

 Events and circumstance press us to that critical moment where we either go or stay. I am confident that in more than a few of these times we took the route of “boldly going”  To stay through to the determined end? There are times when bold courage is needed to stay; to remain; to continue especially when the going is tough.There have been seasons in my life where I know that it was time to go. That it was time to move on to the next level. During these times it required courage of heart to act. Going around in times of crisis and instability has the thrill of the challenge and each required an amount of courage to step into it.

The Courage To Love

The Courage To Love

There is honor in seeing something to its proper end. When life gets rough and the going is not easy, why not consider the courage that it takes to boldly stay and see these things through, I wonder what opportunities we have abandoned; what learning curve we have flattened because, going was the bold and perhaps easier way.  Many great men have influenced me in many ways and One of them once said, “When the going gets tough, the tough stay put.”

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