Stepping In The right direction – the biggest step of your life
Taking the smallest step in the right direction can go a long way, as we all know life is not always a bed of roses but as we lay our bed is how we will lie on it. There are times when taking the smallest step in the right direction will go a very long way because that step if taken could be the greatest and best in your life. Whatever takes, taking an action and focus will help you in a very big way. Sometimes we have a motive or a goal but because of laziness or procrastination, we tend to stay in the same spot, all because we refuse to take that little step in the right direction, but a step taken could have been a win situation but instead we get distracted and overwhelmed with unnecessary issues of life.
Sometimes you meet the love of your life, but miss or lose that person because you refuse to profess your feelings due to fear and doubt of what that person will say, same goes for a person that wants to go to college but keep postponing admission because of unnecessary situation. Sometimes we plan on getting a job but we are lazy about applying and end up losing that job same goes for a business man who has a lucrative business prospect that might change his life for the best, but because of delay, doubt, second thought and not taking action could make everything go wrong. You need to stop having second thoughts and start taking action because that would be the biggest for you in the right direction.
The clock is ticking and the fact that time waits for nobody simply means whatever you need to do, do it quick. everybody has a dream and wants it to come to pass and we all want a new and better life but the fact remains that our dream to become a star,an engineer,a doctor, an entrepreneur and whatever we want for our selves can never come to pass if that first step needed in the right direction is not taken. Take that first step in the right direction so that whatever you want may come to reality. It is almost like that saying ” how you lay your bed is how you lie on it”, So regardless of what your goals or dreams are, believe in yourself and take that first step in the right direction, even if it’s a baby step. Whatever you wish would be fulfilled in the step taken in the right direction. Step into the world you want by jumping the broom into a new life.
What To Do When Angry Or Frustrated
Anger could be called a process of natural irritation due to an event or circumstance which could lead to frustration if care is not taken. No matter what the situation is, it is always good to convert your anger into a good and useful thing instead of letting it become destructive. There are so many things you can do when you are angry, such as you walking out of the house at that instance so that you can cool off, you can mow the lawn or do housework. All this process makes you shed the anger and the good thing is that when you are angry, whatever you are doing gets done on time and this is because it gives you the opportunity to vent e.g. scrubbing a shower, mopping a floor – avoid any kind of dusting, because it doesn’t have the hard physical activity you need to throw out your anger. There are so many other recreation activities you can involve yourself in, when you are angry and this includes outdoor jogging and other types of exercise. That way you can burn off your anger and your mood will definitely change and you will feel great because you mastered your anger and channeled it into something good.
Humour can also be a tool for defusing your anger. You can watch one of your favorite silly humour movies, take a few deep breaths and prepare for a mental “movie screening”… and slowly recall that favorite funny scene. It will help you cut your anger. Try to take things easy and don’t be too hard on yourself, and it is a very good idea not to expect too much from other people either. When you start boiling up in anger. try the best you can to control your anger by taking some of the actions mentioned above. Say it out loud and clear, “The trash spilled on the floor again?, and so what? Oh well, that’s life.” Most importantly is you taking a pick at what got you angry in th e first place. Why were you angry in the first place, the goal is to divide the problem into one of 2 classes.
1. If your anger is about a specific issue that could lead to change whether it’s your behavior or someone else’s, then decide what to do about it non-violently. For example, if you are angry at yourself for leaving shoes where you will trip over them, then move the shoes and make a rule to keep them in the new spot. Or if a neighbor has borrowed something of yours awhile ago and hasn’t given it back, then tell the neighbor that you’d like the item back please as you need to use it again soon. Remember to keep things in perspective and don’t expect perfection.
2. Lets look at it critically, If your anger is absolutely beyond your control or out of proportion, then there is really nothing you can do, But to mentally visualize yourself wrapping your anger in a box and giving it away to the person or situation that brought about it in the first place. When you find it difficult controlling your anger or unable to channel your anger into anything useful with the above tips, then there surely will be a problem and could be destructive – not only to you, most importantly to those around you. Never put your loved ones through anything bad because of your anger. If you feel your anger is getting out of control sometimes, seek help. It takes a lot of determination to do that. Some people find that anger management classes give them a lot of help and i will suggest you try this avenue too to see if you can get help through it. Remember, you owe it not just to yourself but to your loved ones to seek help if you need it.
Trust and Distrust
Trust is the beginning of every good marriage, but when trust is not there anymore, it takes the grace of God for trust to exist again in that relationship. A spouse can forgive, but that painful experience will make it difficult for the offended spouse to let go for fear that it could happen again. For some, it is easier to forgive than to forget. Trusting and getting hurt is bad enough, so, taking chances for the occurrence is not an option? Putting up barriers of protection is not uncommon for a wounded spouse.
Distrust is very common between spouses especially when one has cheated and this situation might weaken a marriage that needs trust to grow. Distrust is like putting on a guard if in any way there is cheating or occurrence of it again. It is a means of protection. On the other hand, it is certainly not impossible to trust again, but it takes some effort and determination for it usually does not happen easily or quickly in any way.
A victim once said after reconciliation with her husband, that she realized what infidelity can cause to a family life and she compared it to a starving dog snatching a beautiful wedding cake. Getting the trust back was like looking for a piece of needle in a haystack but the truth is that the remaining cake was still beautiful, but the unforgettable part is that anytime you look at the remaining cake you kind of miss the complete cake before the dog got into it and that makes you bitter, sad and angry. the question is, how could a loving spouse take such beauty away from a loved one he promised to cherish? that kind of pain is often indescribable and a lot will surely be affected including Life itself.
Marriage is not the only institution that has cheating issues . Many Cheaters victimize their relationships with children, loving friends, other close family members, and even themselves. The bad part about this is that it may affect cheaters’ families because of the pain, embarrassment, and awareness of community gossip it will cause. most times such scandal can lower the value or importance of a family within a community. The whole families may suffer because of it. A good friend does not want to witness her best friend’s husband in a compromising situation with another women. A member of the family does not want to hear gossip about their loved one from other people in the community. the Young people contemplating marriage one day might lose faith and respect in the marriage institution due to this infidelity crisis in the society, and celebrity gossip on the media is not helping either. All of these life experiences are painful for many family members and others to bear when it comes to issues of cheating and infidelity.
The unfortunate thing is that cheating and crisis at home always have very bad or negative effects on the children because it gets them confused and they end up being the most wounded victims. A lot of children suffer silently and some could blame themselves and the bad part is that this parent problem could spill over into the rest of their lives thereby causing various dysfunctions in their own personal families. The best thing to do if situations like this arise is to go for counseling but many families do not look at it that way because many families do not see the need to get it.
Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships
Cheating is never a good thing both in a marriage or any relationship, and making irrelevant and unnecessary excuses are not acceptable either and as we all know the consequences are always devastating for all parties involved, especially the children and the offended spouse.“Sometime the effects of cheating on the victims involved could be devastating especially, if they end up living that relationship for another and it could be a problem if the parties involved are not fully healed, so the best we can do to avoid any kind of trauma in our lives is being sincere and honest with our friends, spouse and acquaintances.
CAUTION TO BE TAKEN ABOUT THE PROBLEM OF SCAM .
WE WONDER AT WHAT SCAM REALLY IS AND WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT?,FROM MY LITTLE UNDERSTANDING:IT IS A PROCESS WHERE ONE SHAKES HAND WITH YOU AS A FRIEND ON GROUNDS OF BUSINESS OR FRIENDSHIP AND THEN TURNS BACK TO SMACK OR SLAP YOU IN THE FACE.
THE FACTORS WHICH MAKES US VICTIMS COULD BE AS A RESULT OF WILL FOR BETTER LIFE ,GREED,STUPIDITY AND SOMETIMES IGNORANCE AND WE ARE SOMETIMES LIKE AN OPEN SEA WITHOUT BORDER OR BOUNDARIES,THAT NEEDS GUIDANCE AND ADVICE OR ELSE TOTAL POLLUTION OR DISASTER.IF YOU ARE SO BLINDED BY GREED,THAT ALL YOU CAN THINK ABOUT IS WHEN DO I GET CHECK?,WHEN DO I GET PAID?,HOW MUCH MONEY WILL I MAKE NEXT WEEK?,THEN YOU NEED TO BECAREFUl.
SCAM GENERATED FROM AN INSATIABLE WANT OF MAN,WHICH CAN BE AS A RESULT OF WILL FOR BETTER LIFE ,GREED,IGNORANCE AND STUPIDITY, WHICH SOMETIMES GIVES ROOM FOR MANIPULATION BY THE BAD EGGS OF THE SOCIETY.IT CAN NOT BE DETERMINED WHEN SCAMMING STARTED BUT, IT REVOLVES ROUND PERSONAL,BUSINESS AND GENERAL ISSUES ESPECIALLY MONEY.
PEOPLE ARE SCAMMED THROUGH DIFFERENT MEDIA FOR EXAMPLE: INTERNET,TELEPHONE AND OTHER MEANS OF COMMUNICATION AND GENERALLY THROUGH DAY TO DAY CONTACTS.
THE QUESTION IS WHAT CAN WE DO TO ADDRESS OR AVOID THIS PROBLEM THAT EATS THROUGH OUR SYSTEM?
- BE CAREFUL WITH WHOM YOU DEAL WITH,ESPECIALLY A STRANGER.
- USE SEPARATE EMAIL ADDRESS WHEN YOU POST MESSAGES TO ANY PUBLIC FORUM.
- DONT GIVE OUT ANY FINANCIAL INFORMATION.
- SET UP FILTERS IN YOUR EMAIL.
- AVOID ANY OF THE QUICK MONEY MAKING PROGRAMS YOU SEE ADVERTISED ON TV,RADIO,PRINT OR THE INTERNET.
WHAT WOULD BE YOUR SUGGESTION?
THE BENEFIT OF LAUGHING AND HOW IT GIVES YOU RELIEF OF MIND AND JOY
LAUGHING AWAY YOUR DISTRESS,STRESS,PAIN,SORROWS AND THOUGHTS IS A NATURAL PROCESS WHICH CHANGES THE MOOD OF A MAN .STUDIES SO FAR HAVE SHOWN THAT LAUGHTER CAN RELIEVE PAIN,BRING GREATER HAPPINESS AND EVEN INCREASE IMMUNITY.
HAVE YOU EVER FELT LIKE YOU HAVE TO LAUGH OR CRY?,HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED THAT GOOD FEELING AFTER A GOOD LAUGH?. LAUGHTER PROVIDES A PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL HAPPINESS OR RELEASE AND A GOOD BELLY LAUGH EXERCISES THE DIAPHRAGM,CONTRACTS THE ABS AND EVEN WORKS OUT THE SHOULDERS,LEAVING MUSCLES MORE RELAXED.
LAUGHTER TAKES THE MIND AWAY FROM ANGER ,GUILT,STRESS AND NEGATIVE EMOTIONS IN A MORE BENEFICIAL WAY THAN OTHER MERE DISTRACTIONS. IT DISSOLVES DISTRESSING EMOTIONS , YOU CANT FEEL ANXIOUS,ANGRY,OR SAD WHEN YOU ARE LAUGHING.LAUGHTER HELPS YOU RELAX AND RECHARGES.IT REDUCES STRESS AND INCREASES ENERGY,ENABLING YOU TO STAY FOCUSED AND ACCOMPLISH MORE.LAUGHING WITH OTHERS IS MORE POWERFUL THAN LAUGHING ALONE. SHARED LAUGHTER IS ONE OF THE MOST EFFECTIVE TOOLS FOR KEEPING RELATIONSHIP FRESH AND EXCITING.
WHAT DOES LAUGHTER REALLY DO TO A MAN? :
- BOOSTS IMMUNITY
- LOWERS STRESS HORMONES
- DECREASES PAINS
- RELAXES YOUR MUSCLES
- PREVENTS HEART DISEASE
- ADDS JOY AND ZEST TO LIFE
- RELIEVES STRESS
- IMPROVES MOOD
- ENHANCES RESILIENCE
- STRENGHTENS RELATIONSHIPS
- ATTRACTS OTHERS TO US
- ENHANCES TEAM WORK
- HELPS DEFUSE CONFLICT
- PROMOTES GROUP BONDING
LAUGHS AND HUMOUR HELPS YOU STAY EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY,IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD AND THE GOOD FEELING THAT YOU GET WHEN YOU LAUGH REMAINS WITH YOU AFTER THE LAUGHTER SUBSIDES.
IT HAS BEEN DISCOVERED THAT LAUGHTER AND JOY BOOSTS IMMUNE FUNCTIONS AND WITHOUT A DOUBT , JOYFUL PEOPLE LIVE LONGER AND HAVE HEALTHIER LIVES. SO READ YOUR FAVORITE BOOKS,WATCH YOUR FAVORITE COMEDIANS AND LAUGH IT UP !
IT WAS A VERY LOVELY DAY OUT WHEN I DECIDED TO GO ON A JOURNEY THROUGH THE DESERT, JUST TO HAVE SOME ADVENTURE AND SEE WHAT PEOPLE EXPERIENCE BY THIS KIND OF TRAVEL.
IT WAS A VERY SUNNY DAY WHEN I ENTERED A VEHICLE THAT TOOK ME TO THE BORDER POST AND CROSSED TO THE NEXT COUNTRY WHERE I AM GOING TO PASS THROUGH AND WE GOT TO A SMALL TOWN AND WAS THERE FOR FEW DAYS BEFORE WE CONTINUED TO A LITTLE TOWN CALLED AGADEZ, IT WAS SORROUNDED WITH MUD HOUSES, BUT I WAS EXCITED BECAUSE I WANTED TO SEE MORE , SO I WENT TO MAKE A BOOKING TO ENTER A TRUCK,IT WAS QUITE INTERESTING BECAUSE THERE WERE LOTS OF OTHER PASSENGERS GOING THE SAME WAY,WHEN IT WAS TIME,THE DRIVER AND HIS ENTOURAGE SAID HIIIIAAAAAA MEANING LETS GO.
WE CLIMBED THE TRUCK AND STARTED SINGING WHILE THE VEHICLE MOVED WITH SPEED TO THE ROAD UNTIL IT GOT TO THE DESERT SANDS AND WE CONTINUED ON A VERY EXCITING MOOD AND WHEN WE GOT TO WHERE WE WERE TO EAT WE ALL GOT DOWN AND EACH PERSON BROUGHT OUT THERE COOKING UTENSILS FROM WHERE THEY PUT IT AND LOOKED FOR WOOD TO MAKE FIRE AND WE COOKED THERE ON THE SAND AND AFTER A WHILE WE RESTED ON THE SAND BEFORE WE CONTINUED THE JOURNEY,BUT WHAT WAS EXCITING ABOUT THIS TRAVEL WAS THE MIRRAGE WE WERE SEEING AHEAD OF US ,IT WAS LIKE SEEING A SEA OF OCEAN AHEAD OF YOU AND WONDERING IF YOU WILL BE SWALLOWED BY IT.
AFTER LONG HOURS OF TRAVEL ON THE DESERT WE GOT TO A SMALL TOWN CALLED DURUKU WHERE WE RESTED FOR THE NIGHT AND CONTINUED THE FOLLOWING DAY.
WHILE TRAVELLING WE CAME ACCROSS A VERY BIG MOUNTAIN WHERE WE RESTED TOOK WATER AND FOOD AND WE WERE ALWAYS JUMPING IN AND OUT OF THE TRUCK WHENEVER OUR DRIVER AND HIS CREW SAYS HIIIAAAA…….,BUT THE GREAT ADVENTURE WAS WHEN WE GOT LOST AND WE WERE LOOKING FOR A WAY OUT AND THE VEHICLE WAS GOING ROUND AND ROUND FOR HOURS ON END BEFORE THREE ELDERLY MEN WHO WERE TRAVELING WITH US TOLD THE DRIVER TO FOLLOW THE DIRECTION OF THE SUNSET UNTIL WE WERE ABLE TO LOCATE OUR WAY AND GOT TO OUR FINAL DESTINATION EVENTUALLY ,IT WAS A LOVELY AND EXCITING JOURNEY FOR IT WAS A GREAT ADVENTURE.