Are you good at what you do? What would you like to be better at

How To Improve yourself

goodNaturally we have different talents and knowledge of different kind and we all cannot be good at the same thing at the same time which warrants the question which is what are you better at? are you better at what you do and how can you be better at what you do. I would say that I am good at what I do most of the time. I put in some effort to do things that interest me but sometimes it takes a while to become good at it.  life would be boring and uneventful if you are good at everything you do and then there would be no challenges and there would be no room for improvement, creativity and progress .  Making effort and improving at something is part of the challenges which allows you to grow as a person. Sometimes the process of achieving a goal or getting what you want is more appealing than completing the goal itself because of the challenges that come with it.

 

goodWe all have different areas of Interest and some of us could be could be good engineers, doctors, artist, writers, bloggers, journalists and so on but would like to improve on whatever they do. For instance some people are very good at excel, Microsoft word and other application programs and would like to improve on it. Many of them would want prefer being a better geek at what they do and sometimes could be good at something entirely different. If you are a writer you could improve on your writing skills.  We have a lot that we can improve on and do with our interest, skills and we can increase our proficiency with our communication skills as a writer, all we need to do is to focus, get busy and take action.

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Some people see in us what we don’t see in ourselves which could be a great improvement to what we do and could influence our greatness and improvement. I was talking to someone who said her friends thinks she is a good cook and an excellent mother and she said she loves being a mother and sometimes she behaves like the kids ,playing dancing and coloring.  As a mother she loves cooking and improving herself by trying any recipe that comes her way. As the case maybe, everyone wants perfection at what they do. some skaters like being professionals, some bloggers likes being perfect and some writers want creativity and better write-ups and so does it apply to our other areas of interest. Some say i am not good at anything and some say i was good at writing and every other thing that i do but don’t command that same kind of mastery anymore, but the fact remains that they can meet their goal and be better at what they do.

goodSometimes I just can’t keep up with  the world. I am doing the best i can, but time flies and I often give up. And I have this project i am working on about writing and i find it difficult writing even a word. It is terrible and the reason being that i have always been good at what i do, but i am sure i can get there again.  So in my opinion, having confidence in yourself is the first step forward to handle any situation either disappointment or rejection.  You need to tell yourself that you can do anything you want to do in this world. I know that I have the skills, and abilities to find the perfect job. If you work hard and put your heart into what you do, you can do anything that you want in your life.  especially when you are not far from people who want you to succeed in all that you do.

Season of peace and happiness

Happy Holidays To You

A happy  time is when people get together to celebrate a most important and peaceful time that matters to all.  Christmas is a time when all friends and families leave there jobs and what ever they have to do to celebrate, it is also a time that people get together in harmony to appreciate life,time and unity with happiness that really counts in the life of man and this is a time when families go out to eat and have fun that really counts with friends and relations .

xmas holiday

happy holidays

Christmas at Downton Abbey (2CD)

Christmas is a special time where kids are happy and want to show it by going to Christmas parties and singing carols and Christmas sing and there are lots of important and necessary things happening for everybody. It is really a time that everybody is looking forward to.  i remember as a little kid, this is a time that we are always looking forward to, because we always have fireworks and a lot of fun including going to parties and a lot of eating and drinking, it’s all fun time for all.

holiday

holiday

 

Christmas is a peaceful and mood changing period when everybody forgets about their life challenges, sorrows pains and whatever they are going through. It is a season of great impression on all grounds and it is a wonderful time that needs consideration by both kids and adults, so it’s a season of happiness, song, celebration and joy.  Christmas has always been a holiday celebrated carelessly, both pagans, Christians, millennia and Jews alike have become part of the season’s festivities, and it is only few people who consider the celebration’s intrinsic meaning, history, or origins. The joy of it is what really matters and not its origin.

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Most of the most popular Christmas customs which  includes the Christmas trees, Christmas presents and Santa Claus.  Most people who are happily preparing for the Xmas celebrations would rather not know about the holidays real origin or significance. even if they know the history or origin of Christmas, they do not care because of the fun and happiness that it brings and that is what really counts or matters.

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I remember the Christmas song:” Happy Holiday Happy holiday, happy holiday While the merry bells keep ringing May your every wish come true.  Happy holiday, happy holiday May the calendar keep bringing Happy holidays to you.  Come To Holiday Inn If you’re burdened down with trouble, If your nerves are wearing thin Park your load down the road And come to Holiday Inn.  If the traffic noise affects you Like a squeaky violin Kick your cares down the stairs And come to Holiday Inn.  If you can’t find someone who Would set your heart a-whirl Take your car and motor to The home of boy meets girl.  If you’re laid-up with a breakdown, Throw away your vitamin Don’t get worse, grab your nurse and come to holiday inn?” It would be a good thing to bring your family and friends together at this time of the year.  “Happy Holidays”.
Santa Toilet Seat Cover and Rug Set (Red)

 

 

The beauty of thanksgiving

Thanksgiving as a way of life

giving thanks

thanksgiving

 The hustling and bustling, the excitement, the preparation, the announcements, the radio and television discussion about thanksgiving makes one to wonder how it would be devastating if there is no Thanksgiving, but for everyday that passes in our lives we always have a thing or two to say thank you for. Is it the job that we got or the birth of our kids or the house that we bought or the new car that we have or our kids graduating from school and we are happy for the blessing of God by giving us good and understanding neighbors or friends that always want to hear us out and listen to what we have to say and the people we have in our lives. We are thankful for all that has transpired in our lives from different angles of our various lives, starting from the beginning of the year till date.

giving thanks

thanks

It was a great and wonderful day when we went out to the salvation army place to appreciate the thanksgiving, the hall was full of people, the kids were playing around, the adults were discussing, the ushers were helping people with food and other activities in this place and the beauty of it all is the interaction and the happiness you see on people’s face on that particular day, the DJ was there doing his thing and the most exciting part of it was the gift that was given out from the ticket that was given out to everybody and to make it more elaborate was the band that played at this occasion, the little children that were singing and playing around and the host and I then said to myself, no matter what your situation is and whatever you are going through, we need to give thanks for every single day of our lives, for every single breath that we breathe and for the lives of our family and friends.

thanksgiving

thanksgiving

some are in the hospital not able to go out or see friends, but the lives that they have is worth being thankful for and it is always a thing of beauty to say Our father in heaven we thank you, if that is the only prayer we have, it is worth it. We have always been thankful for everyday of our lives and when we sleep and wake up, but the most beautiful thing about thanksgiving is being able to say thank you after all our lives experiences on the thanksgiving day is absolutely amazing.  Some families go out on that day to the movies to have fun which is part of the beauty of thanksgiving.  One other thing that i appreciate and value about the thanksgiving is the black Friday, a lot of family is making preparation for this day so they can buy stuff for a moderate price and enjoy the bliss of the thanksgiving ceremony and another thing that i realize is people going out on black Friday despite the cold to buy stuff for their various families.

Love At The Thanksgiving Day Parade

Ability To Do Things We Least Expect

The Ability To Do Things That Are Unique And Beneficial

Ability

Sometimes we do have doubt in our ability to meet our goals and due to this doubt we allow ourselves domination by inefficiency and uncertainty thereby making it impossible to focus .  As we all know “Ability is the confidence to do things and attitude is the ability to get our goals.” but, great ability with a very bad attitude can lead to a lot of things such as doubt in ourselves,procrastination,depression , sometimes lack of confidence and a lot of other things that we cannot comprehend.

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Looking at it critically, confidence in ourselves can encourage us to archive a lot as long as we have the will, zeal and determination to go for what we want. baby step is good  but also it is good to move faster in our motives, goals and inspiration so that we can get to our destination on time.  There are all kinds of abilities but natural abilities are like trees planted by the waters which brings out its fruits in its own season.  Ability coupled with attitude always make room for doing things that are unique and beneficial.

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Out of the blue we do things that we list expected and some funny situations arise that we do not know how it came about. ability to do things can lead to creativity, self-consciousness and the right attitude to get this goals. Ability coupled with the right attitude can do a lot of magic. people with the right mindset and the ability to do things can get their inspiration at the least expected moment. they always follow their heart even if they are not convinced of the outcome of whatever they are doing.  Sometimes failure comes their way but they never give up.

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Sometimes we judge ourselves by what we believe we can do or our ability to do things and on the other hand people judge us by our achievements. Growth is sometimes determined by doing things beyond what you already know. I was reading  a quote which kind of interests me and it says “If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.” Henry Ford which I am sure is food for thought.  Ability to do things goes a long way and its all about confidence from my point of view, from the little we know Big and good jobs always goes to men who can prove themselves worthy of that job.

Ability

As humans we always ability to think and plan ahead of time. The way we think and plan are different from each other,Some do plan further ahead than others. There are definitely advantages to planning ahead, but on the other hand flexibility is the other of the day.

The Smallest Step In The Right Direction Can BeThe biggest step of your life

Stepping In The right direction – the biggest step of your life

smallest step

Taking the smallest step in the right direction can go a long way, as we all know life is not always a bed of roses but as we lay our bed is how we will lie on it.  There are times when taking the smallest step in the right direction will go a very long way because that step if taken could be the greatest and best in your life. Whatever takes, taking an action and focus will help you in a very big way.  Sometimes we have a motive or a goal but because of laziness or procrastination, we tend to stay in the same spot, all because we refuse to take that little step in the right direction, but a step taken could have been a win situation but instead we get distracted and overwhelmed with unnecessary issues of life.

my dream

Sometimes you meet the love of your life, but miss or lose that person because you refuse to profess your feelings due to fear and doubt of what that person will say, same goes for a  person that wants to go to college but keep postponing admission because of unnecessary situation.  Sometimes we plan on getting a job but we are lazy about applying and end up losing that job same goes for a business man who has a lucrative business prospect that might change his life for the best, but because of delay, doubt, second thought and not taking action could make everything go wrong.  You need to stop having second thoughts and start taking action because that would be the biggest for you in the right direction.

taking a step

a step

The clock is ticking and the fact that time waits for nobody simply means whatever you need to do, do it quick.  everybody has a dream and wants it to come to pass and we all want a new and better life but the fact remains that our dream to become a star,an engineer,a doctor, an entrepreneur and whatever we want for our selves can never come to pass if that first step needed in the right direction is not taken.  Take that first step in the right direction so that whatever you want may come to reality.  It is almost like that saying ” how you lay your bed is how you lie on it”, So regardless of what your goals or dreams are, believe in yourself and take that first step in the right direction, even if it’s a baby step.  Whatever you wish would be fulfilled in the step taken in the right direction. Step into the world you want by jumping the broom into a new life.

 

 

 

Steps To Take When You Are Angry Or Frustrated

What To Do When Angry Or Frustrated

angry

anger

Anger could be called a process of natural irritation due to an event or circumstance which could lead to frustration if care is not taken.  No matter what the situation is, it is always good to convert your anger into a good and useful thing instead of letting it become destructive. There are so many things you can do when you are angry, such as you walking out of the house at that instance so that you can cool off, you can mow the lawn or do housework.  All this process makes you shed the anger and the good thing is that when you are angry, whatever you are doing gets done on time and this is because it gives you the opportunity to vent e.g. scrubbing a shower, mopping a floor – avoid any kind of dusting, because it doesn’t have the hard physical activity you need to throw out your anger. There are so many other recreation activities you can involve yourself in, when you are angry and this includes outdoor jogging and other types  of exercise. That way you can burn off your anger and your mood will definitely change and you will feel great because you mastered your anger and channeled it into something good.

You Don’t Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

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angry

Humour can also be a tool for defusing your anger. You can watch one of your favorite silly humour movies, take a few deep breaths and prepare for a mental “movie screening”… and slowly recall that favorite funny scene. It will help you cut your anger.  Try to take things easy and don’t be too hard on yourself, and it is a very good idea not to expect too much from other people either.  When you start boiling up in anger. try the best you can to control your anger by taking some of the actions mentioned above.  Say it out loud and clear, “The trash spilled on the floor again?, and so what? Oh well, that’s life.” Most importantly is you taking a pick at what got you angry in th e first place.  Why were you angry in the first place, the goal is to divide the problem into one of 2 classes.

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frustrated

How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger (Laugh & Learn)

1. If your anger is about a specific issue that could lead to change whether it’s your behavior or someone else’s, then decide what to do about it non-violently. For example, if you are angry at yourself for leaving shoes where you will trip over them, then move the shoes and make a rule to keep them in the new spot. Or if a neighbor has borrowed something of yours awhile ago and hasn’t given it back, then tell the neighbor that you’d like the item back please as you need to use it again soon. Remember to keep things in perspective and don’t expect perfection.

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Anger

You Can’t Make Me Angry

 

2. Lets look at it critically, If your anger is absolutely beyond your control or out of proportion, then there is really nothing you can do, But to mentally visualize yourself wrapping your anger in a box and giving it away to the person or situation that brought about it in the first place. When you find it difficult controlling your anger or  unable to channel your anger into anything useful with the above tips, then there surely will be a problem and could be destructive – not only to you,  most importantly to those around you. Never put your loved ones through anything bad because of your anger. If you feel your anger is getting out of control sometimes, seek help. It takes a  lot of determination to do that.  Some people find that anger management classes give them a lot of help and i will suggest you try this avenue too to see if you can get help through it.  Remember, you owe it not just to yourself but to your loved ones to seek help if you need it.

Trust and Distrust In Marriage And Any Other Relationship

Trust and Distrust

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Trust is the beginning of every good marriage, but when trust is not there anymore, it takes the grace of God for trust to exist again in that relationship. A spouse can forgive, but that painful experience will make it difficult for the offended spouse to let go for fear that it could happen again. For some, it is easier to forgive than to forget. Trusting and getting hurt is bad enough, so, taking chances for the occurrence is not an option? Putting up barriers of protection is not uncommon for a wounded spouse.

Trust

Trust

Distrust is very common between spouses especially when one has cheated and this situation might weaken a marriage that needs trust to grow. Distrust is like putting on a guard if in any way there is cheating or occurrence of it again. It is a means of protection. On the other hand, it is certainly not impossible to trust again, but it takes some effort and determination for it usually does not happen easily or quickly in any way.

Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration

trusted relationship

relationship of trust

A victim once said after reconciliation with her husband, that she realized what infidelity can cause to a family life and she compared it to a starving dog snatching a beautiful wedding cake. Getting the trust back was like looking for a piece of needle in a haystack but the truth is that the remaining cake was still beautiful, but the unforgettable part is that anytime you look at the remaining cake you kind of miss the complete cake before the dog got into it and that makes you bitter, sad and angry.  the question is, how could a loving spouse take such beauty away from a loved one he promised to cherish? that kind of pain is often indescribable and a lot will surely be affected including Life itself.

trusting your couple

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Marriage is not the only institution that has cheating issues . Many  Cheaters victimize their relationships with children, loving friends, other close family members, and even themselves. The bad part about this is that it may affect cheaters’ families because of the pain, embarrassment, and awareness of community gossip it will cause. most times such scandal can lower the value or importance of a family within a community. The whole families may suffer because of it.  A good friend does not want to witness her best friend’s husband in a compromising situation with another women. A member of the family  does not want to hear gossip about their loved one from other people in the community.  the Young people contemplating marriage one day might lose faith and respect in the marriage institution due to this infidelity crisis in the society, and celebrity gossip on the media is not helping either. All of these life experiences are painful for many family members and others to bear when it comes to issues of cheating and infidelity.

relationship built on trust

built on trust

The unfortunate thing is that cheating and crisis at home always have very bad or negative effects on the children because it gets them confused and they end up being the most wounded victims. A lot of children suffer silently and some could blame themselves and the bad part is that this parent problem could spill over into the rest of their lives thereby causing various dysfunctions in their own personal families. The best thing to do if situations like this arise is to go for counseling but many families do not look at it that way because many families do not see the need to get it.
Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships

distrust couples

distrust couples

Cheating is never a good thing both in a marriage or any relationship, and making irrelevant and unnecessary excuses are not acceptable either and as we all know the consequences are always devastating for all parties involved, especially the children and the offended spouse.“Sometime the effects of cheating on the victims involved could be devastating especially, if they end up living that relationship for another and it could be a problem if the parties involved are not fully healed, so the best we can do to avoid any kind of trauma in our lives is being sincere and honest with our friends, spouse and acquaintances.